Many people see no point in going and seating to talk with somebody if after all they aren’t going to solve their problems. However, latest research and science demonstrate that what happens in a therapy session is more than a simple conversation: it changes your brain. Oh wow…that sounds too good to be true. How can a simple conversation or as Freud called it, the “talking cure,” change the brain? What happens in a therapy room isn’t just a conversation. It is a synchronism between two brains when one nurtures each other. There have to be certain elements for this to happen and that is why it is not the same that talking to your best friend or a family member. It can certainly happen with them as well, but if you are looking into therapy is probably because conversations with the people around you don’t provide you with these elements.
You need therapy if you want a real lasting change in your life. It’s as simple as that. You have tried on your own, you have tried different ways, and it just didn’t work. Working together, you and your therapist will identify your goals (what you want to have happen), the obstacles that are in your way, and agree on how you’ll know when you are making progress. Therapy has one clear and definite purpose: that something of positive value and constructive usefulness will come out of it for you.
The thoughts and feelings you share together with the professional techniques the therapist uses build the relationship you need to promote the change you are looking for. Because the relationship with the therapist is so essential to the effectiveness of the process, it is very important that you find someone with whom you feel a comfortable connection, a therapist who makes you feel understood.
In therapy, you intentionally make yourself vulnerable to another human being and you may talk about some things that are very painful for you. However, it is the very process of trusting to release your feelings–the good and the bad–and knowing that the therapeutic relationship permits you to safely explore deeply felt sources of conflict and dissatisfaction that will finally allow you to make lasting, positive changes in your life.