As I mentioned in the section About Me
, during my journey as a therapist I have develop a passion for Attachment Theory
and treatment and look for different modalities and training out there to specialize in the topic. It is fascinating to me that no matter what people are looking for when coming to therapy, loss of a baby, depression, eating disorder, high anxiety and stress, relationships or loneliness problems, addictions, parenting, work related issues and self-esteem…sooner or later, in 90% of the cases, we end up talking about attachment and some sort of trauma.
Why is that? People secure attachment is the number one predictor of emotional regulation and resilience in life. So most people that don’t have that attachment style tend to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with their symptoms or life difficulties. But don’t worry. The good news is that you can change and earn a secure attachment and heal the traumas. As an attachment and trauma expert I use the following modalities in my therapy work.
About EMDR ( Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing )
EMDR is an effective method of psychotherapy used for a wide variety of life concerns including:
- All types of trauma: one time incidents and pervasive trauma such as ordinary, relational and developmental trauma.
- Childhood Events which have caused low self – esteem or confidence problems
- Addictive Behaviors
- Eating disorders
- Performance Anxiety in sports, work, and the arts.
- Stress Reduction
How Does EMDR Work?
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a comprehensive approach to psychotherapy, originally developed by Francine Shapiro, a Senior Research Fellow at the Mental Research Institute in Palo Alto, California in 1987.
Human nature is naturally geared towards health and to be in meaningful relations with others. When life conditions are good, we thrive; when we’re under prolonged periods of stress or disturbing events happen, symptoms can develop. Why? Because under high levels of stress the brain can not process information normally and therefore, those experiences tend to get stuck in isolated neuropathways. Those moments become “frozen in time”, and remembering a trauma may feel as bad as going through it the first time because the images, sounds, smells, and feelings haven’t changed no matter how much time passes. Such unprocessed memories have a lasting negative effect that interferes with the way a person sees the world and relates to other people.
EMDR seems to have a direct effect on the way the brain processes information. EMDR appears to replicate what occurs naturally during dreaming or REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. Therefore, it can be thought of as a physiologicaly based therapy because it taps on the brains’ natural capacity to heal and helps a person see disturbing material in a new and less distressing way. So once normal information processing is resumed, the person no longer perceives the event nor feels the disturbing feelings as before.
EMDR offers a reprocessing of disturbing life experiences resulting in a significant reduction or elimination of symptoms such as emotional distress, intrusive thoughts, flashbacks and nightmares. EMDR is one of the most researched psychotherapeutic techniques in history. A complete list of studies may be found through the EMDR International Asssociation’s web site, http://www.emdria.org or The EMDR Institute, www.emdr.com
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is not family therapy. The name refers to each person’s internal community, or “family” of parts. Very often, our internal systems become organized around emotional pain, and how to manage it. An IFS therapist works with you to release pain, calm down problem areas and problem behaviors, and restore your original joy in life.
Internal Family Systems Therapy is aimed at healing the wounds associated with traumatic situations or the lack of enough nurturing in life. It is applied in family, couple, and individual situations. This technique combines two established methods: multiplicity of the mind and systems thinking. Internal Family Systems Therapy brings together various strategies from the Bowenian therapy base, as well as from more traditional narrative and structural modalities. The different elements are united through the goal of addressing the sub-personality. In this type of therapy, a person is guided to realize their inner self through the use of practical applications. A person progresses on their own healing path according to their unique design without external urgency or persuasion. Internal Family Systems Therapy was developed by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D.
Attachment Therapy and Relationship Trauma
How does it work?
The core of this modality is to help you identify your Attachment style and its challenges. By learning the exact language for each Attachment style and specific corrective experiences you can heal early wounds.
Why learning the language of attachment is a foundational skill for all relationships?
1. People often put their best intentions into trying to be ideal partners. However, often early biological wiring fuels automatic responses that create intense conflict and pain with the very ones they love most. The key is to learn the language of Attachment so you can heal your childhood attachment wounds, which is ESSENTIAL to enjoy fulfilling relationships as adults now.
2. Attachment is present in ALL AREAS of our life: parenting, personal relationships, coaching and in business. This work is expanding far beyond the field of trauma and we are teaching them very learnable skills that can enable anyone to experience meaningful and fulfilling relationships in every area of their life.
3. When you understand early Attachment styles in a healthy, safe environment such as the one in therapy, the original imprints that are the foundation of the self-protective ego structure can be healed.